Odd Girl Out, Revised and Updated: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls #2020

Odd Girl Out, Revised and Updated: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls Rachel Simmons Odd Girl Out Revised and Updated The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls REVISED AND UPDATED WITH NEW MATERIAL ON CYBERBULLYING AND HELPING GIRLS HANDLE THE DANGERS OF LIFE ONLINE When Odd Girl Out was first published it became an instant bestseller and ignited a long ove

  • Title: Odd Girl Out, Revised and Updated: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls
  • Author: Rachel Simmons
  • ISBN: 9780547520193
  • Page: 332
  • Format: Paperback
  • Odd Girl Out, Revised and Updated: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls Rachel Simmons REVISED AND UPDATED WITH NEW MATERIAL ON CYBERBULLYING AND HELPING GIRLS HANDLE THE DANGERS OF LIFE ONLINE When Odd Girl Out was first published, it became an instant bestseller and ignited a long overdue conversation about the hidden culture of female bullying Today the dirty looks, taunting notes, and social exclusion that plague girls friendships have gained new momenREVISED AND UPDATED WITH NEW MATERIAL ON CYBERBULLYING AND HELPING GIRLS HANDLE THE DANGERS OF LIFE ONLINE When Odd Girl Out was first published, it became an instant bestseller and ignited a long overdue conversation about the hidden culture of female bullying Today the dirty looks, taunting notes, and social exclusion that plague girls friendships have gained new momentum in cyberspace In this updated edition, educator and bullying expert Rachel Simmons gives girls, parents, and educators proven and innovative strategies for navigating social dynamics in person and online, as well as brand new classroom initiatives and step by step parental suggestions for dealing with conventional bullying With up to the minute research and real life stories, Odd Girl Out continues to be the definitive resource on the most pressing social issues facing girls today READING GROUP GUIDE AND TEACHER S GUIDE available at marinnerreadersguides
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    1. I honestly think everyone should read this book especially parents of girls It s about the ways in which girls deal with anger and aggression, as opposed to the ways in which boys do The premise is that boys tend to be direct in their aggression physical confrontation while in contrast, girls use an indirect approach known as relational aggression s definition of relational aggression is a form of aggression where the group is used as a weapon to assault others and others relationships It uses [...]

    2. I picked up an audio book at the library the other day primarily for my wife On my way to work on Monday, I realized I didn t have anything cued up in my shuffle, so I grabbed Odd Girl Out on my way to the car As the father of a new baby girl, I thought it might me interesting to find out about female alternative aggression Interesting is not the word I am down right frightened It isn t popular to say this, but I had a relatively idyllic childhood I wasn t one of the Popular kids, but I had good [...]

    3. The newly revised and updated edition of Odd Girl Out is a must have for every person who is parenting or educating a girl.This was the first book I grabbed once my fall classes were over Why I think it s because I have a daughter She s eight and in the 3rd grade and we ve already had two incidents involving bullying The first was in preschool and the second was last year Both incidents were handled by teachers are administrators in a manner that Simmons suggests in Chapter 12 the road ahead for [...]

    4. Every mother with a pre teen or teen girl needs to read this book This book was disturbing for me, both as a parent and as a former girl I clearly recognized myself as a victim of bullying throughout the book, but it also made me realize that, as a kid, I was also sometimes a perpetrator, which I had never thought about before.Unfortunately it does a much better job of outlining the problem of girl bullying than it does at presenting solutions That said, it is helping me better understand my dau [...]

    5. I still remember the mean girls when I was in junior high school There were three of them, who for some unknown reason made it their mission to make getting an education a living hell for everybody else If they weren t throwing old food at me during recess, they d be passing notes about me to other kids, throwing rocks at my little brother, or pushing me down the staircase on the way to class Their proudest moment was locking me in the janitor s closet for a whole day To be honest, I don t even [...]

    6. Rosalind Wiseman s book is far better.Simmons performs a whole bunch of interviews, but fails to develop anything than a shallow theory of stunted expression of aggression that ticks all her ideological boxes The purple prose and emotive language made the book seem like a tendentious polemic.Simmonds filters the information through her theories and personal experience I ve tried to keep an open mind but don t trust that she s given all of the information Further her theories are rooted only in [...]

    7. This book was recommended to me by my supervisor at my field placement at the Shaker Heights schools It suggests that girls in our society particularly white, middle class girls have been socialized to believe that they must be nice and sweet at all times, and consequently, a culture of hidden, silent aggression has developed, often called relational aggression The author interviewed hundreds of girls and adult women, and their stories are told throughout the book It was painful to read at times [...]

    8. I consider myself to have been an outcast and a victim of bullying through grade school, but am having trouble relating to the stories in this book Maybe I m part of the problem from this author s point of view, because I wouldn t call these scenarios bullying at all The people she profiles are friends, but there is a lot of emotional blackmail in these relationships On page 106, the author says I d planned to organize the girls stories according to the qualiites I assumed girls got punished for [...]

    9. Anyone who has survived middle and high school years has had some direct experience with how girls negotiate relationship conflict It s vicious and covert Simmons does a very comprehensive job laying out all the ways in which this happens and how we set them up with this conflicting message that they must always be nice No wonder they take all their aggression underground Somewhere along the line girls are taught that conflict will result in relationship loss, which is the worst outcome, so they [...]

    10. I grew up reading stories about and trying very unsuccessfully to emulate girls sent to live in attics by evil boarding school head mistresses, but who nonetheless made the very best of their circumstances and were steadfastly good and angelic never bearing a grudge that they lived in a cold attic with rats as their only friends, wore rags, ate gruel, and performed hard labor So, this study about girlhood aggression was a refreshing change disturbing because the aggression is often than not aga [...]

    11. this book was pretty awesome my expectations weren t that high, so i walked away impressed than i expected to be it explores the uniquely girl ways that girls are aggressive to one another, contrasting against previous research on aggression bullying that has been male dominated male focused at no point does the book devolve into making biological essentialist arguments about female brain chemistry or anything like that it s all about the way that girls are socialized to be feminine how that im [...]

    12. This book provided some really interesting insights into how girls carry a lot of pressure to be nice and likable hmm, sound like critiques of fictional heroines anyone has read lately , and how that pressure has the insidious side effect of crippling girls when it comes to handling conflict The belief that one is supposed to be loved by everyone, all the time, is of course completely incompatible with the need to address differences or express one s own feelings or wishes When differences or ne [...]

    13. In Rachel Simmons book, Odd Girl Out, she describes some of the stories that she heard while going from school to school to talk about girls who were bullied The entire thing is impossibly melodramatic, including Simmons account of her own bullying one day, one girl told the other kids not to play with her Despite the fact that this is what to normal people would be a minor incident and the fact that it happened in the third grade, this is something that apparently haunted Simmons for her entire [...]

    14. This book did open my eyes and not in a positive way To be honest I was kind of shocked but the author is right about lots of things Especially how girls use each other and how they do not want to confront others.Very interesting read Update May 20 2014.Changing this rating from 3 to 4 because I cannot stop thinking of this book read in 2009 and last year I even tried to get my bookcrossing released copy to a friend back but never received an answer I of course offered payment for shipping So I [...]

    15. As someone who has bullied and been bullied the book was a fascinating look and visit back to the world of teenage girls Many factorsand theories have been given as drivers of female bullying and this book goes into depth about how we as a society do not allow girls to adequately and healthily express their anger And over that we perpetuate antiquated notions of how girls should behave despite fighting on a daily basis for women s rights in the workplace Though well intentioned and well research [...]

    16. A month or so ago I heard a news story about a girl bullying episode that ended in tragedy, both for the victim who committed suicide out of despair, and the perpetrators, who were tried in court for their aggression This haunting story was what made me request several books from interlibrary loan on the subject, and this one was the kind I was most interested in reading not a self help or counseling so much, but written investigatively from an extended series of interviews with girls of various [...]

    17. In the Odd Girl Out I feel like the author has wrote down what we all know about girls and the conflicts they endure The idea that girls can never actually resolve issues but instead sweep them under a rug, because aggression can lead to losing friends and girls are taught that relationships are the most important thing in life This is a book that all moms and daughters should read, because it puts into words the relational struggles that take place in a school and why girls are mean The book wa [...]

    18. I had mixed feelings about this book but it shed so much light on how I felt in 4th and 5th grade, and to a lesser extent later times in my school years So much else has happened in my life that dissecting what it is that is still under my skin to be dealt with and heal is often a tall order to sift through Often the greater issues come up first such as the loss of my father to cancer But all of this, being a social outcast, the alternative aggressions I experienced that all got swept under the [...]

    19. In this book, Rachel Simmons argues that girls are socialized to be conflict avoiders and have limited outlets for expressing their anger or aggression Instead, they work at appearing nice and sweet and express their aggression in subtler ways that float beneath the radar of those around them rumor spreading, alliance building, using body language to exclude others, etc Girls form large cliques and will often choose one of their own to scapegoat for no apparent reason a little like The Lottery b [...]

    20. As anyone who has been anywhere near me recently is undoubtably sick of hearing, I just read this really great book It s called Odd Girl Out The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls Basically, a writer took the time to talk to a bunch of groups of elementary to high school aged girls about how and why they are mean to each other Teaching girls not to be aggressive, the author postulates and I think she s right , backfires into girls putting their aggressions into all of this underhanded, backbi [...]

    21. A must read book for anyone with daughters, nieces, sisters, friends, girlfriends and also for any teachers in any capacity, basically anyone who ll every come in contact with a girl woman My aunt recommended this book to me after my daughter had a girl from school texting her really mean things This book deals with regular everyday face to face and other social interactions girls have with each other, as well as the technology interactions, and how they impact their relationships and the form o [...]

    22. It was painful to read this book I have been a victim of bully for 20 years For me it started in first grade and went up through my junior year in college many of the situations in this book I have also experienced My tormentors weren t just girls but guys as well I wasn t just getting kicked or hit by boys and the girl aggression from just girls It was a good mix of both I got quite a few kicks and spit at from girls as well For a long time, I didn t know what to do about it Teachers couldn t o [...]

    23. I had mixed emotions about the novel Odd Girl Out written by Rachel Simmons I enjoyed how the book went into depth about such a unique and overlooked topic of aggression in girls Rarely do we get the chance to learn about bullying or aggression in girls because it is of a mental game compared to the physical bullying amongst boys I enjoyed being able to relate to a lot of the stories told about young girls in school, such as how girls can mask their cruelty under a good girl image and get away [...]

    24. An enlightening read Simmons traveled all over the country doing in depth work with girls of different races and social classes and religions She says that girls are sometimes sneaky and gossipy and cruel not because that s how females are hardwired but because our culture punishes girls who are openly aggressive verbally or physically or who seem confident Because most girls don t learn to work things out when they have a conflict with someone, they tend to rely on subtle forms of aggression a [...]

    25. I loved this book It is a must read for any parent with daughters, teachers, or anyone who will be working with girls Rachel researched this for 3 years, interviewing girls and women who had experiences with alternative aggression her term for non violent aggression that girls use It was a little frustrating, because I just kept thinking, What is the solution Sadly, there is no easy solution As with many complex issues, there is a lot of work we need to do in society about ideas of femininity be [...]

    26. I like this book, but under conditions I recently graduated from an all girls high school and we were asked to read this book one summer That was the summer going into my junior year The book is entirely accurate During my teenage years, I have encountered all the forms of violence that the book details However, since I was living the experience at the time I read the book, Rachel Simmons did not teach me anything that I did not already know, nor give me advice I had not already heard My complai [...]

    27. This is one of those books that you think you should read especially if you have a daughter but you read it with a lot of dread and discomfort I think what the book reveals about girls being passive aggressive and taking out their aggression by being mean and nasty to their friends is not a big surprise but her numerous interviews are very interesting to read It is depressing that so many girls are not comfortable with their emotions and can not have nurturing and loving friendships with others [...]

    28. Definitely an interesting book I haven t had to deal with this too much with my two girls but I do know that this book is right on My one daughter does things to make herself different and is a protector of kids that are bullied This does help me accept that she is fine not being in the group She sees they are fake already and does not want to be part of them She is definitely confident than I was at 14 My other daughter probably dealt with this but karate helped lift her self esteem so much t [...]

    29. In high school I attended an All Girls Catholic School Issues with girls were multiplied by 100 being in that environment and for the most part, I graduated unharmed ha ha My mom bought this book for me one year when a huge fight of gossip and rumors came out about a girl at my school We weren t friends and we barely knew one another but my mom was concerned that I would let the behaviors of girls around me to impact my own personality and ways of dealing with my friends This book is great to re [...]

    30. This book was so hard to get through but extremely important to read It draws from interviews with girls who were bullied by other girls and mixes the interviews with factual writing Some of these girls were scarred for life by quiet abuses inflicted by their peers as early as elementary school and as late as college Girl bullying aka relational aggression is a huge problem in schools We tend to dismiss it as girls being girls and teachers look the other way because it is not physical violence, [...]

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