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Bringing Up Bébé: One American Mother Discovers the Wisdom of French Parenting Pamela Druckerman Bringing Up B b One American Mother Discovers the Wisdom of French Parenting The secret behind France s astonishingly well behaved children When American journalist Pamela Druckerman has a baby in Paris she doesn t aspire to become a French parent French parenting isn t a kno

  • Title: Bringing Up Bébé: One American Mother Discovers the Wisdom of French Parenting
  • Author: Pamela Druckerman
  • ISBN: 9781101563144
  • Page: 157
  • Format: ebook
  • Bringing Up Bébé: One American Mother Discovers the Wisdom of French Parenting Pamela Druckerman The secret behind France s astonishingly well behaved children.When American journalist Pamela Druckerman has a baby in Paris, she doesn t aspire to become a French parent French parenting isn t a known thing, like French fashion or French cheese Even French parents themselves insist they aren t doing anything special.Yet, the French children Druckerman knows sleep thrThe secret behind France s astonishingly well behaved children.When American journalist Pamela Druckerman has a baby in Paris, she doesn t aspire to become a French parent French parenting isn t a known thing, like French fashion or French cheese Even French parents themselves insist they aren t doing anything special.Yet, the French children Druckerman knows sleep through the night at two or three months old while those of her American friends take a year or French kids eat well rounded meals that are likely to include braised leeks than chicken nuggets And while her American friends spend their visits resolving spats between their kids, her French friends sip coffee while the kids play.Motherhood itself is a whole different experience in France There s no role model, as there is in America, for the harried new mom with no life of her own French mothers assume that even good parents aren t at the constant service of their children and that there s no need to feel guilty about this They have an easy, calm authority with their kids that Druckerman can only envy.Of course, French parenting wouldn t be worth talking about if it produced robotic, joyless children In fact, French kids are just as boisterous, curious, and creative as Americans They re just far better behaved and in command of themselves While some American toddlers are getting Mandarin tutors and preliteracy training, French kids are by design toddling around and discovering the world at their own pace.With a notebook stashed in her diaper bag, Druckerman a former reporter for The Wall Street Journal sets out to learn the secrets to raising a society of good little sleepers, gourmet eaters, and reasonably relaxed parents She discovers that French parents are extremely strict about some things and strikingly permissive about others And she realizes that to be a different kind of parent, you don t just need a different parenting philosophy You need a very different view of what a child actually is.While finding her own firm non, Druckerman discovers that children including her own are capable of feats she d never imagined.
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    1. The popularity of books like this give the impression that today s American parents are willing to take advice from anyone other than their own relatives The most helpful advice the French have about child rearing is very traditional, the sorts of things people everywhere have said for generations don t pick the baby up the moment it fusses, No means no, you have to try a bite of everything, children and parents are happier when the parents are in charge Excellent advice, and worth reading if th [...]

    2. The fetishization of the French or the Chinese or whatever the hot culture of the moment is bugs me, to no end I think that when you re a stranger in a strange land, as Druckerman was, you end up putting a great deal of emphasis on fitting in and behaving to the detriment of what s truly important Druckerman admits toward the end of the book, as her daughter becomes and French, that she s a bit disturbed and unsettled and not all that pleased by the results of her own French parenting Be caref [...]

    3. The basis of the book has been recounted, but is worth retelling An American author finds herself in Paris because of her husband s job As she emphasizes, she is American she does not live in France because of francophilia she does not imagine that she will stay or live in France.But When she had her daughter in France, she was struck repeatedly, and at many levels at the difference between French and American children Differences in how they behave, interact with children and adults, how they p [...]

    4. I failed to appreciate much of what this book had to offer based on many poorly backed assumptions and one substantial thought flaw The author mentions that she believes the French public services don t explain the differences in parenting that she sees One could easily argue that if many American parents didn t have to worry about child care costs, preschool, college tuition or health insurance their parenting styles would be vastly different.There are far too many references to one extreme exa [...]

    5. It s so interesting reading this book as a non parent and as somebody who never intends to be a parent It s clear to me that most current American parents are slaves to their children in a way that my own parents were not As someone who works with the public on a daily basis in a place that caters to children families as well as adults , I m frankly appalled at some of the behaviors I see that would never have been tolerated a generation ago I am aware, though, that it s easy to be smug and judg [...]

    6. This THIS It was such a relief to read this I ve worked with kids since 7th grade, and really want at least one of my own, but well, frankly, a lot of people make it seem like the worst thing ever Forget sleep, when you have kids Enjoy your LAST VACATION THAT S ACTUALLY FUN Good luck eating chicken fingers the rest of your life I always thought that sounded so utterly sad I, personally, always really loved hanging out with kids but had the sort of subconscious thought that maybe it wouldn t be f [...]

    7. Also known as French children don t throw food One of the best parenting books I ve ever read, and entertaining as well I actually took notes and have been trying some things out I love the author s attitude and I can see a lot of logic in many of the French ideas But regardless, I really enjoyed reading the story of this family

    8. As a retired pediatrician and a grandfather, I am often intrigued by literature pertaining to child rearing, and when I read several reviews of this book and watched an interview with the author, I was especially interested in reading the book for myself Druckerman is an American, married to an Englishman, who has lived in Paris for a number of years, and she has had three children during her sojourn there When she and her husband noticed, to their chagrin, how much easier the French managed chi [...]

    9. I ve purposefully shied away from so many parenting books on the bookstore shelves these days It seems like most of those geared toward pregnancy put you in a mild panic about all the things that could go wrong And the rest They induce a sense of fear, guilt and inferiority that, book lover though I am, I don t want to gravitate toward as I enjoy this stress free pregnancy of mine BUTI d heard a lot of discussion about this particular book and I have to say, if it ends up being the ONLY book on [...]

    10. There s a lot to filter out in this book specifically, the author s lack of objectivity, considering that she appears to live in a manner to which most people do not have the financial means to aspire but the core ideas she s captured from her experiences in Paris are very useful for parents struggling to raise their children with discipline and manners without resorting to shouting I was looking for some tools to communicate with and educate my son, as at 3 and a half, he s becoming increasingl [...]

    11. This will be one of the only if not THE only parenting style books I read I m a Francophile anyway, but I loved this American expat s take on the study of French parenting how she tried to integrate it, as best she could, into her children s lives while living in Paris Firm rules boundaries, but with freedom within that Respect for children as intelligent beings capable of learning and NOT in need of constant hand holding to do so Respecting the fact that parents have lives needs and that the wo [...]

    12. This book is terrible and from a journalist, shockingly unresearched The author often cites one person or some French moms she spoke to to support her assertions about the French way The same is true for her descriptions of an American she knows whose baby does xyz and that means all Americans parent in that way The book is also filled with inaccuracies The supposedly French and superior method of raising children described by the author is so obvious and indistinguishable from what many America [...]

    13. I ve always had a soft spot for the French well, except for that kid, Pierre, who took one of my classes and affirmed every single bad stereotype of Parisians I d ever heard, and then some I especially love to read about how Americans perceive French life I suppose this is an example of me living vicariously through my book choices Anyway Bringing Up Bebe has been popping up on my various radar screens for weeks, and I ve been at my wit s end with my newly minted three year old lately, so when t [...]

    14. I loved this book and most of the advice I do think think that the pause is enacted way too early and, although I agree with a feeding schedule, four times a day isn t enough for an infant in my opinion I love how the French teach their children the importance of Bonjour, Merci, Au Revior, as well as how they introduce them to food and get them involved in the kitchen Some of the reviewers lambasted the author for depicting the parenting styles of upper class Parisians as out of touch with how t [...]

    15. Infuriating But once I got past the crazy, indulgent American parent v calm, wise, strict French parent nonsense, I could enjoy this author s engaging, witty writing Obviously I disagree with the premise that the French are better parents Sorry, a 2 month old sleeping through the night is not uniquely French Neither is an obedient, well mannered child The author s view of parents in Paris, as well as her research of numerous French parenting ideas, is extensive Had she applied her journalistic s [...]

    16. At the core of this book are a few decent parenting strategies it s OK to say no in a firm but rational way, it s OK to let your baby shift around and cry for a few minutes while sleeping because they might just be between sleep cycles, believe in your kids and you ll be surprised what they can do, it doesn t make you a selfish monster to have your own time and your marriage be priorities so I know I shouldn t completely take a dump on it, but for me those ideas were drowned out by soooo much ne [...]

    17. Let me start by saying that I could write a doctoral thesis on this book You know, if I were a lot smarter and still in school and hadn t had to look up how to spell thesis Let s also start from a premise in which I have no children The four small people wandering around my home are a tribe of nomads and they are just passing through so I have no dog in this fight regarding the best way to raise children Because I don t have four of them so my self worth isn t riding on the outcome of this debat [...]

    18. This book was recommended to me by a good friend.Very funny written, entertaining and good read, but not as a typical guide.Listen to your intuition and do not let the counselors influence you

    19. I was originally going to read the first couple of chapters, which deal with infants, and stop there But much to my surprise, this was a far better book than I had imagined What I was expecting was another pat, self help section miracle solution to everyone s parenting woes type of book the endorsement by and comparison to French Women Don t Get Fat wasn t helping What I found instead was an honest, informative, well researched, and well written account of an American mother raising children in [...]

    20. I started reading this book b c I had heard about it, and then a new parenting bookclub that I m in had talked about it a lot So I came to it with curiosity and hope for insightful perspectives Instead, I could barely get through the intro and first chapter Unlike many people, I did not like this book.The author writes well, but I could tell that she is a journalist in a bad way b c she writes in soundbites It s very catchy, sexy, but she makes sweeping generalizations, and her writing is anecdo [...]

    21. Let me first say, that I am not a parent Nor do I intend to become a parent in the near future I would like to have children within the next four or five years, but am in no rush within that time frame So I know how odd it might seem for a non parent to read a parenting book.The reason I decided to read this book is based, in large part, on my own fear of parenthood In a recent discussion with my mother she was horrified to learn that I had lived most of my life with a fear of having children I [...]

    22. Although this was an enjoyable read and was easy to follow I found myself getting increasingly frustrated with smug French women who rear these perfect children who sleep through the night, eat all vegetables and never whinge Really As I read on I realised that maybe their kids do do all these things but at what price French women don t like to breastfeed, go back to work very quickly and expect the creche and nursery to bring up their children.I found myself feeling very sorry for French chilre [...]

    23. I was surprised at how much I disliked this book I couldn t read very much without putting it down in disgust It just made me so mad American and French society are so different that of COURSE American parents differ in their parenting styles I don t think one journalist talking to a bunch of friends and neighbors can constitute a new parenting style or even be included as a parenting book I especially disliked the section on sleeping babies To someone who has tried la stinkin Pause for many a b [...]

    24. NB my 2 stars It was ok is probably based on the content than the author s work I found it entertaining and easy to read but wish I never had Having just arrived in France and happily learning I was pregnant, I bought this book after reading reviews promising it would give me some insight into the culture of child raising here and amuse me to boot It did But there was another to boot it completely got me down about this new culture I d just committed to It seems I m not just not Almost French a [...]

    25. First, let s clear something up, shall we No, I am not pregnant nor do I have any plans to be in the near future.I picked up this book because It was in the office, the cover looked nice, it had a blurb from Amy Chua in the back, and I ve always wondered why American children are unpleasant compared to those of other cultures This book attempts to answer that question with a look at how the French bring up their kids I liked the idea of hard limits and boundaries, what the book refers to as cadr [...]

    26. I ve been trying to avoid the most super trendy of the parenting books, because I was afraid they would make me crazy This one was a gift, so I felt bad not reading it At the beginning, I had severe doubts Happily enough, I lost most of them by the end, although not necessarily for the reasons the author intended.So The author is an American ex pat living in Paris who couldn t understand why her French friends kids were well behaved, her kids were kind of out of control, and her American friends [...]

    27. Loved it A true inspiration and I definitely got some new perspectives and some reinforcement for some of my old beliefs Structure is good for everyone especially children And I loved the French Mama combining being a mother and a woman.

    28. I found this book very helpful BUT, like many e books, it tricked me by ending at the 86% mark after that it was all index, etc I hate that I thought I had a good 10% left Format woes aside, I enjoyed this little foray into the parenting how to genre, mostly because it wasn t so much a how to as it was a borderline anthropology experiment It relies on a premise I ve seen done several times over the last few years, starting with French Women Don t Get Fat Cookbook Basically, an American British n [...]

    29. Having read many reviews on this book, I knew to not expect anything scholarly, but rather, one woman s observations from her life.Even still, it was BORING I cannot buy into the fact that EVERY French child is raised exactly the same, and that EVERY French child turns out well behaved On the flip side, perhaps because I m not an upper crust, Manhattan parent, I don t personally know any American that parents the way she suggests If anything, within my community, parents are like the French par [...]

    30. The British title of this book is French children don t throw food Parenting secrets from Paris A very unusual mix of constructive observation and funny appraisal of how French mothers bring up babies and children It is extremely well researched and many experts are quoted to support P Druckerman s comparisons between the French Anglo Saxon and American approach to parenting The pivotal arguments in the book however come from the hands on lessons from her french friends and neighbours As a Frenc [...]

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